12 Signs that You are Healing

Erica Kesse

12 Signs that You are Healing

12 signs that you are healing


1. You lose some relationships that do not serve you.

2. You feel irritation with your therapist or safe relationships when she/ he shows you one more thing you must work through.

3. Your rebound from unpleasant circumstances gets quicker and quicker.

4. You do not want to talk about people's behavior and would rather discuss ideas/ concepts.

5. You live an intentional life where you choose happiness and satisfaction.

5. You long to build your social support system full of healthy and self-aware people who work to not trigger you and helps you with accountability with self-care and coping skills.

6. You love yourself by tapping into your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual self.

7. You accept yourself.

8. You like yourself and do the things you like.

9. You do not care about other people's opinion of you. You actually enjoy being radically you.

10. You can remember your past and not be triggered by it.

11. You can acknowledge vulnerabilities/ triggers and immediately be skillful with coping skills.

12. You offer full apologies when you have caused issues within another person.

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By Erica Kesse • February 6, 2026
You didn’t start your business to become a mechanic. You started it to be a visionary. Yet, lately, you find yourself exhausted, second-guessing your intuition, and feeling like the entire weight of the company is resting on your shoulders.  In my work with leaders, I call this "Strategic Floundering." It’s that heavy, tight feeling in your chest when you realize that despite the long hours, the view from the summit isn't getting any closer. Here is the truth most consultants miss: You don’t have a productivity problem. You have a configuration problem. To reach your Vision (The Horizon), you need a high-performance Mission (The Vehicle). Your Vision is the emotional "Why." Your Mission is the operational "How." If the vehicle is broken—missing tires, no fuel, or a seized engine—it doesn't matter how hard you stare at the horizon. You aren't going anywhere. When your Mission is vague, you pay the "Ambiguity Tax." This isn't a line item on your P&L, but it is your most expensive cost. The First-Order Effect: You jump in to fix every small problem. The Second-Order Effect: Y our best people stop thinking for themselves because they know you’ll take over. You accidentally turn "A-Players" into "order-takers." This creates a Ghost Engine where your personal health and sleep are the only things keeping the company moving. This isn't a business; it's a cage. Real leadership isn't just a head game. To stop pushing the car and start driving it, you must achieve Vertical Integration: The Head (Mind): Does the Mission make logical sense? Does every service have its own tires (budget and staff)? The Heart: Does this work still feed your soul, or have you abandoned your values for growth? The Gut: Do you t rust your own intuition, or are you ignoring the "check engine" light in your stomach? When these three are aligned, the friction disappears. You move from being a worker in your business to being the Commander of your legacy. You can keep pushing the car until you burn out, or you can pull over and fix the engine.
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The Silent Saboteur: Why Your Spreadsheet is Lying to You

By Erica Kesse • January 26, 2026
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Wellbeing at Work: Why Purpose (Mission) is the Ultimate Buffer Against Burnout

By Erica Kesse • January 23, 2026
Why can a CEO work 80 hours a week on a passion project and feel energized, but 40 hours on a meaningless task feels draining? The answer lies in Purpose . Research shows that connecting work to a higher Mission is one of the strongest buffers against burnout. If you are worried about the mental health of your leadership team, look at your Mission statement first. The "Why" Matters More Than the "What" "Quiet quitting" and executive burnout often stem from a sense of futility. Weak Mission: "We want to increase Q3 profits." (High stress, low fulfillment). Strong Mission: "We exist to save our home planet." (Patagonia). (High effort, high fulfillment).  Leadership Resilience For a CEO, the Mission is the fuel tank. When times get tough, profit goals won't keep you warm. Only a deep belief in why you exist can sustain your wellbeing through a crisis.
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